what keeps us from being honest?

after rereading that quote i posted below i totally get what tolstoy was saying. it’s hard to be honest, because by putting your true feelings out there (not just about people, but about books and politics and beliefs and even food preferences) you’re placing yourself under the judgment and scrutiny of the person you are sharing with. and so we tiptoe and poke around what we actually want to say until we are sure that the person won’t laugh at us for our openness.

one of today’s google quotes is:

We forfeit three-fourths of ourselves in order to be like other people.
  – Arthur Schopenhauer

and it’s true. how often do we hold back things we want to say, even though we are sure it would help our friends to hear them? how often to we sigh with shame or regret after we’ve ended a conversation where we didn’t stand up for our convictions? what is worse in the end, to be ridiculed and shunned for your beliefs, or to realize you don’t believe strongly in anything at all?

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~ by justinhong on November 26, 2007.

2 Responses to “”

  1. when’d you post this entry?? you should go to sleep earlier!for my friends who think they have nothing to lose except being honest to themselves, they have no problem being honest to others…i wonder what i think i have to lose. perhaps God’s image or something…but i think that’s a lie….

  2. nice.

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